I went to a party in Brunswick on the weekend to celebrate an engagement. One of the PhD students in our Department recently got engaged to his boyfriend up in Queensland. Last Saturday, they decided to throw a party to celebrate. T and B's friends can be roughly divided into two groups: biologists and architects (reflecting the respective jobs of the newly-engaged couple). It was curious to see that most of the biologists (well, all except me and the PhD student) were straight. This was quite a contrast to the architects, many of whom appeared to be gay. Sexuality drawn down occupational lines. Interesting.
I seem to be working in a very heterosexual world (how many gay scientists do you know?). Work colleagues aside, it seems that most of my friends (both scientists and non-scientists) are also straight. This was quite a problem when I was still single since I was unable to rely on my friends to introduce me to any of their single gay friends because,quite simply, for the vast majority of them, I was it. And unlike some people I know, I never really changed my friendship circle after coming out either (there was no sudden swapping of all my straight mates for gay ones). It is undeniable that gay and straight people engage with each other very differently than when interacting with those who share the same sexual orientation as themselves but I've never really felt like I've missed out having the friends that I currently enjoy. Nathan, meanwhile, is surrounded by a disproportionate number of fag hag types (he works a lot with nurses).